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Tickling: Such a Powerful Word by Veronica Frances

Let's Talk About Tickling 2Tickling: Such A Powerful Word

By Veronica Frances

Tickling—such a powerful word. To most people, tickling is just a mere word, an afterthought. Pianists like to tickle the ivories. Perhaps one is tickled to hear such happy news. For somebody with a tickling fetish, tickling is anything but an afterthought.

For someone with a tickling fetish, it is difficult to understand how people are so unaware of the power of tickling. Tickle fetishists find it hard to fathom that people are generally quite nonchalant about tickling, or just don’t think about it one way or another. What’s the big deal about tickling? It is simply an annoyance that can be fun for only a few minutes at a time. Those are the thoughts that many people have about tickling. It is difficult for non-tickle fetishists to understand how somebody could love tickling so much, to the point where it can sometimes become an obsession.

The truth is anything can become an obsession. A love of tickling does not have to be an obsession, but it can be a very powerful fetish. Tickling is powerful in so many ways. That is why so many people avoid it and even hate it. Some of us even love to hate it, loving it and hating it at the same time. Tickling confuses people and frightens those who have a deep fear of losing control. The confusion comes from the way in which tickling can escalate, beginning as such a delightful, erotic sensation and becoming torturous or extremely intense very quickly.

The word tickling and any form of that word holds tremendous power all on its own, especially for those of us who are deeply affected by it. It is sort of like when a dog hears something that others can’t, or when you say the word walk and the dog reacts with such excitement, their ears standing straight up at attention. For a dog, the word walk will make them react with passion and exuberance.

Dogs will also react to sounds that humans do not always hear. Non-tickle fetishists cannot hear the hidden power behind the word tickling the way someone who loves tickling most certainly can. When tickle fetishists hear the word tickle or any form of the word, they react internally and sometimes even find it difficult to hide their delight and the fact that the word even makes them blush at times.

For many tickle-fetishists, any form of the word tickle excites them. Most people with a tickling fetish cannot hear the word tickle and not feel that strange twinge in their body. For the true tickle fetishist, the word tickle puts a bounce in their step and makes them feel just a bit more alive.

But tickling is so much more than a word. It is a feeling, a response, a vulnerability, a powerful kick in the libido and, for many, it is something to avoid. Tickling is scary to some people because it is a straight dive right into the pool of surrender and vulnerability. It can feel pleasurable, but it can also feel uncomfortable and maybe even slightly painful. Pleasure and discomfort do meet up sometimes when it comes to tickling. Tickling can be a place of mixed emotions and reactions.

The tickling fetish can force people to explore their sensuality and all the pleasures and discomforts that come with it. It is so powerful when someone who loves tickling allows themselves to find pleasure from the different sensations that tickling can cause, even if there is some minor discomfort for those who are extremely ticklish. Sensuality is really about exploration and once we stop exploring, our relationships and sensuality suffer.

So, we must admit that tickling has power over us, or else why would we react so passionately to it? I mean, people either hate it passionately, love it passionately, or say that it doesn’t affect them one way or another.

I received a review of my novel Tickling Daphne H. from a woman who personalized her own uptight feelings about tickling in the review. She put on this pair of boxing gloves that really made me see how uptight tickling can make some people. The truth is, she was uptight well before reading my novel. She basically forbade her husband from tickling her or doing any of the wild things in my book. She thought that tickling couldn’t possibly be fun and she would smack her husband if he ever tried that stuff with her.

I remember thinking, Now here is a woman who needs a good tickling, perhaps a spanking as well. I wondered how uptight she actually was with her husband and if he perhaps secretly wanted to loosen her up a bit and teach her a thing or two by tickling her all over her uptight body.

The point is, her reaction to my book was a passionate one and truthfully, tickling does tend to cause differing, passionate reactions in people.

Yes, we each have our own reactions to tickling, but if we suddenly find ourselves with a partner who has a tickling fetish, or if we are facing a tickling fetish ourselves, we must explore those reactions and discover that tickling is not just a mere word after all. For some people, it is a necessary part of life.

Copyright © 2015 Veronica Frances

About the Author:

Veronica FrancesVeronica Frances is the author of the gutsy, no-holds-barred novel, Tickling Daphne H. Her new non-fiction book Let’s Talk About Tickling sheds a refreshing new light on the subject. She is known as the TickleWriter in some circles.

Veronica also writes under her real name, Stacey Handler. Stacey is the author of The Body Burden; Living In The Shadow Of Barbie. Her book was featured in Jump Magazine, Australian Women’s Weekly, The National Enquirer, and several other publications, radio shows and cable TV shows.

Stacey excels at public speaking, singing, composing, and writing. She is a singer-songwriter, poet, and has written in many different styles. She has an album and several singles available, including her two popular anthems, Ain’t No Skinny Little Thing and Soap Opera Diva.

She lives in New York City, where she continues to write erotica, fiction, poetry and non-fiction.

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Humor Me (And Watch It, I’m Sober) by Michael Reilly

Humor Me (And Watch It, I’m Sober)

By Michael Reilly

Humor is always dangerous. Whether you are attempting it in a social setting or through writing, or acting, or whatever, it has a high risk of failure. Like the health care plan: a high risk of failure (that’s not supposed to be funny).

 

I’ve never really considered myself a funny person. I was definitely not a class clown. In fact, I think most of my feeble attempts to be a class clown when I was little, wound up with no laughs and long visits to the principal’s office (real class clowns never get caught, by the way). As I grew up, I realized it was always best to leave the joke telling to those raging extroverts who seemed to be able to make people howl just by stepping into the room.  I became used to hanging in the back, quietly.

 

But my mind has never been quiet. I’ve always enjoyed finding the irony or humor in things, even if it meant keeping the laughs to myself. I was hesitant to ever convey my observations through my writing, for the same fear that I’ve always hesitated to entertain a crowd of people. High risk of failure. At least in a crowd of people, your efforts can be quickly dismissed and forgotten about, particularly if half the group is smashed. Heck, they might even laugh if they’re smashed. But in writing, those attempts don’t die away quickly. They’re right there on a page for posterity, long after you die away. Which has led me to remember that we are all mortal, no one’s perfect, and only the fearless get to live life now instead of waiting for it to happen some other day. To paraphrase Goethe: “Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”

 

So when I decided to write a novel about obsessive parents, I decided to be bold and find the humor in it. I realized my chance for success might have been higher if I wrote a macabre tale, full of vampires and wizards, and stuff like that, and perhaps if I threw in as many ghastly scenes as I could. How about one where a despondent teenager stabs his obsessive father 117 times on the way to a golf course where the kid’s supposed to hit practice shots for five hours straight for the eighty-second day in a row, while the fat old man sits drunk in a folding chair and screams opprobrium over the kid’s weak follow-through? Nah, not for me.

 

I’d go with the higher risk of failure and hope that it would more aptly convey my message. Ultimately in poking fun at helicopter parents, or just plain over-eagerness, which we all fall victim to, I hoped to provoke the readers to realize that our kids often have as much to teach us as we have to teach them. We are so inclined to give, give, give, for fear that our kids will not measure up in such a competitive world, that we wind up disillusioned and feeling unappreciated. And then no one’s happy.

 

In my recently released novel, Fresh Heir, the main character, Doug Shoop falls into this trap as he attempts to catapult his genius son, Jamie, to stardom. As I wrote the novel, and attempted to keep it humorous and satirical, I tried to stick to three rules:

 

  1. Look for things people can relate to: When it comes to parenting, there’s a bevy of material we can all relate to. Sometimes it feels like we are so alone in our struggles, it’s such a relief when we realize we are not alone. One common parenting theme I try to play up quite a bit is the struggle to communicate, particularly with teenagers. The father, Doug, is constantly seeking verbal affirmation from his son, and usually only gets a grunt or shrug of the shoulders in response. Sound familiar? With that said, there were definitely some more arcane jokes in my story, but with Google always just a click away, it’s safe to assume people can look things up. Just don’t make them Google stuff on every page of your book.

 

  1. Play off of extreme contrasts: All parents know that life through their eyes is quite a contrast to those adults without kids. One of my favorite scenes in Fresh Heir is when Doug and his family are visiting his ex-wife and her new husband. The new husband does not have children, he is very wealthy and quite anal. The funny scene takes place during dinner, a time at which most parents have resigned themselves to the fact that enough food will likely fall on the floor to fill up even the most ravenous dog. But this rich guy doesn’t have a dog. He does, however, have a contraption that is intended for kids to wear under their chin, to catch all the food that fails to make it where it’s supposed to go. I have never actually seen one of these things in real life, but I do think a pretty good living could be made selling them on the Internet.

 

  1. Scale it back: When you are writing satire, or just trying to set a light and humorous tone, I believe there is a tendency to go overboard. You get on a roll, maybe even laughing out loud at your spectacular efforts. Well, that’s when it’s time to let it simmer and then re-write. Let’s face it, editing your own work is a crucial task for any author. But this is particularly true for writing humor. I tossed quite a bit of material into the proverbial scrap bin when I realized it was just plain stupid. After all, my boldness has limits…and I’m not ready to die yet.

 

I would be interested to know people’s thoughts about reading and/or writing satire and humor. Do you like it? Who are your favorite “funny” authors? Oh, and more importantly, what about being a parent drives you nuts? Come on…let’s see who can be funniest.

 

Michael Reilly is a writer and entrepreneur. He earned a bachelor’s degree in history from Yale University and a master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University. His first published novel, Fresh Heir, was released in May 2011. He is also founder and chief executive officer of FitDivs Inc, a company that promotes and rewards healthy living. Michael resides with his wife and four children in Charlottesville, VA.

You can visit his website at www.freshheirnovel.com or connect with him on Facebook at www.facebook.com/pages/Fresh-Heir/168240473246308.

 

 

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